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The most jaw-dropping moment on 'Love Is Blind' this season wasn't between any of the leads

The most jaw-dropping moment on 'Love Is Blind' this season wasn't between any of the leads
  • Wednesday's "Love Is Blind" finale featured the most powerful moment of the season.

  • The raw conversation between Clay's parents was the most intense confrontation on the show.

  • It was a perfect reality TV moment that also served as a thesis statement for Clay's whole arc.

Warning: Spoilers ahead for the "Love Is Blind" season six finale.

When Clay said, "I don't," to AD at the altar in the season-six finale of "Love Is Blind," the only one who was surprised was AD herself.

The show had been setting up the couple's unhappy ending for weeks as Clay struggled to reconcile his complicated family dynamic with his readiness for marriage.

But what was surprising was the stunning confrontation that came after AD left the altar heartbroken — one that took place between Clay's parents, Margarita and Trevor.

Margarita was already an MVP when she first showed up earlier this season

Margarita on "Love Is Blind" season 6 episode 9
Clay's mom first appears on "Love Is Blind" season 6 episode 9.Netflix

Clay's mom, Margarita, had already won legions of "Love Is Blind" fans over with her no-nonsense attitude when she first showed up in episode nine. During the dinner where she and her daughter meet AD for the first time, Margarita masterfully mediates Clay and AD's argument over work/life balance, referencing the fact that her own marriage ended after Clay's dad, Trevor, cheated on her.

"Marriage is hard, OK? It is the most sacred institution there is," she tells them. "And I say that even though my marriage failed. But 23 years — that's a nice run, you know? I want the very best for both of you and with the right person, marriage is beautiful."

As it turns out, that moment in episode nine is just a teaser for what may go down as one of the best scenes in "Love Is Blind" history.

Clay's conversation with his dad before the wedding foreshadows Margarita and Trevor's confrontation

Clay hugging his dad on "love is blind" season 6
Clay hugging his dad before the wedding ceremony.Netflix

Clay's separate interactions with each of his parents before heading to the altar are telling.

When Clay's father, Trevor, visits him in the groom's suite ahead of the ceremony, he admits to his son that he never had a good role model in his own father, who wasn't present in his life.

Clay, for his part, tells the cameras that this conversation is the most he's ever gotten out of his dad and that he realizes he took on some of Trevor's negative qualities. He even says that his desire to be married is at odds with the relationship trauma he was exposed to in the past when he was influenced by his father's decisions.

"It's just tough to look yourself in the mirror and be like, 'I'm causing a lot of issues in my life, I'm causing a lot of stress in my life,'" Clay says. "I believe that me being married would be great for me. And although people would say don't let your past dictate your future — the man he is, I'm a lot like my dad."

Then, as she prepares to walk with him down the aisle, Margarita gives Clay a pep talk of her own. "Whatever the decision is, I support you completely," she tells him. "Just yield into your feelings."

Ultimately, Margarita doesn't seem surprised when Clay says no to marrying AD, but she does seem disappointed. In a sweet moment, she even stops a devastated AD to hug her as she's walking away from the altar, telling AD she's sorry.

Margarita hugs AD on "Love Is Blind" season 6 finale
This is practically a Renaissance painting.Netflix

Both of Clay's parents express their support for his decision and tell him he did the right thing by not saying yes if he wasn't sure.

"If you're not 100% sure here, don't ever cross that line," Margarita tells Clay.

"At the end of the day, you gotta do what makes Clay comfortable because if you do it for any other reason, you're not gonna be happy," Trevor says. "If you thought long and hard about this, guess what? That's the decision you live with. And I'm proud of you. It's maturity, man, you're showing maturity."

After Clay leaves to talk to AD, his parents are left alone — and that's when the magic starts.

Clay's mom confronts her ex-husband for passing on his generational trauma to Clay — and also calls him out for treating her badly

Clay's parents on the "Love Is Blind" season 6 finale.
Clay's parents talk on the "Love Is Blind" season 6 finale.Netflix

There's no sobbing, no yelling, and no insults. All that somehow makes it even more impressive that the conversation between Clay's parents after his failed wedding to AD has become the moment we're all still talking about from the finale.

And it's not like there's been a shortage of confrontations and memorable fights — from Laura and Jeramey's messy, contentious breakup, to AD confronting Sarah Ann for DM'ing Jeramey, to Chelsea and Jimmy's near-constant fighting, season six hasn't exactly been drama-free.

But Margarita and Trevor's conversation isn't about drama for drama's sake. It's a genuinely moving moment of raw, human interaction that feels shockingly real and not at all contrived for a reality TV audience.

It comes off almost like the two have forgotten the cameras are there and they're just having a moment — a much-needed, long-simmering airing of grievances. This is two people who have known each other for decades and who have years of hurt behind their words, not reality-TV show contestants who have known each other for two weeks. And you can tell.

Margarita is calm, measured, and outspoken as she lays into her ex-husband, a moment you can almost see building in her as she watches Trevor comfort Clay right after the ceremony.

But this isn't just a moment where a scorned woman gets to confront the man who hurt her (though the satisfaction of witnessing Margarita get to say her piece, virtually uninterrupted, is certainly part of it). What Margarita says to Trevor perfectly sums up the concept of generational trauma and manages to serve as a thesis statement for Clay's entire arc this season.

Here's Margarita's speech to Trevor in full, because it's worth reading the whole thing:

"Part of what he is struggling with, he struggles with a marriage. 'Is this sacred? Do you honor?' He struggles with that, and all of those emotions and twisted feelings, he took that to the altar. And a lot of that stems from things that you have to explain and then apologize. Don't make excuses, just apologize. So that closure can be had.
But the marriage thing, the commitment, he struggles with that. He's like, 'I know you stayed, Mom, but there's things that I saw that I should not have saw, or been in a position.' And you know kids, when they grow up and they see things, it's like, you know, 'Is marriage for real? Or is marriage something you get into and you lie and you deceive?' And he took a lot of that to the altar with his decision."

Trevor starts to get visibly emotional and responds that he didn't have the best role models, again reiterating that his own father wasn't part of his life. Margarita takes his hand in a comforting gesture, then proceeds to essentially tell him he needs to deal with his own shit and help Clay heal.

"Listen, I've always told you I forgave you, but there are things that had came out in the end that I did not know about until this experience. I was hurt. Again, I'm divorced from you, but things that he shared with me that I did not know.
So that's why I'm saying he took a lot on his back. And although we came from broken families, that doesn't mean that we have to pass on that brokenness to our kids. Your past and things that you witness is part of your DNA, it's part of your insides. And if you don't get freakin' help, you bring that shit into the next thing. So the fact that he did this process, he wants to be in a long-term relationship. He wants that."

The conversation ends with Trevor jokingly telling Margarita that she should tell Clay to meet someone like her — clearly meant to be a compliment. But Margarita rightfully calls Trevor out, telling him straight up: "You met me, but you wasn't good to me. OK? We won't talk about that anymore."

Margarita walks away from Trevor on "Love Is Blind" season 6 finale
Margarita walks away after saying her piece.Netflix

It's no surprise that this moment resonates with so many people.

Generational trauma is, unfortunately, an extremely common human experience, and it's not often we get such a deep conversation plunked into the middle of a Netflix dating show. While it stands apart for being so different from the confrontations that came before it this season, it's also a perfect reality TV moment — you can't help but hang onto Margarita's every word, captivated and needing to see how Trevor will respond.

That's pure drama, with zero contrivance. And it's what all reality TV needs more of — real, relatable human experience, thoughtfully voiced.

The "Love Is Blind" season six reunion airs March 13 at 9 p.m. ET on Netflix.

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