April 01, 2011
NBA players lead difficult social lives from the fall to spring. Unlike most working adults, they're consistently on the road for the majority of the year, which makes it difficult to building lasting relationships with significant others. If you're wondering why a legitimate groupie culture exists in the league, it's because players get lonely very easily. Oh, and because they make lots of money.
Anyway, some players can feel unfulfilled even while achieving their professional dreams. Take it from Raptors vet Sonny Weems(notes), who is looking for love wherever he can find it. From Dave Feschuk for the Toronto Star (via Eye on Basketball):
Still, it's not a stretch to suggest that when pro athletes, both male and female, seek romantic partnership, choice comes in quantity. Quality, Weems will tell you, is another matter.
"A lot of females come to you, and they tell you a story. 'I want to be your girl. I'm different from other females.' Or whatever. It happens all the time," Weems said. "Athletes really have it hard, trying to find that person. Who can you trust?" [...]
Why, then, would Weems, at age 24, bother seeking a relationship via Twitter? Evans wondered aloud if Weems has grown tired of being a soloist while one of his closest friends on the team, 21-year-old DeMar DeRozan(notes), spends quality time with a steady girlfriend.
"DeMar's been having a girlfriend for a while — it's probably taking a toll on Sonny," Evans said, a mischievous smile ever in place. "He probably thinks he needs someone."
As noted by Feschuk in the article's lede, Weems sent out a Twitter missive that it might be time for a girlfriend and promptly received around 50 responses showing interest. I'm not sure that's the best way to find a nice woman, but plenty of wonderful relationships start online, at least according to those commercials I see on TV.
Weems is living a life that most men would kill for, but it's interesting to note that he still desires a sense of stability that's hard to come by in a league where players can be dealt to teams in faraway cities with no warning. On the other hand, that uncertainty is usually a problem for relationships. It's a tough situation for athletes and their beloveds, with both sides having to make sacrifices and compromises on a consistent basis. Those are the elements of more normal successful relationships, too, but they're even more important when one person is regularly on the move.
We all wish Weems good luck on his quest for love. Like all people, he's going to need it.